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What You Shouldn’t Say To Friends Who Don’t Have Children

When a couple has children it is usually an extremely significant event in their lives.  The raising of children changes many aspects of the couples life.  One of the aspects that can be negatively impacted on is the friendships with couples that do not have children.  There are important things you should never say to a couple that doesn’t have children.

I Guess You Have A Pet

Pets can be a large part of a couples life.  However they are never a substitute for having a child.  You should never talk to a childless couple in a manner that sounds like it is a consolation prize for not having children.

When Do You Intend On Having Children?

Couples that have the blessing of children often want their friends to share in their wonderful experiences.  However, asking other couples about when they plan on having children in public situations is definitely a no-no.  There are a variety of reasons why couples don’t have children.  Sometimes they decide having children isn’t right for them. There could be medical problems such as infertility that the couple is facing.  If you want to discuss issues concerning why a couple isn’t having children you should very carefully and very discreetly bring it up only in private conversations.

I Guess You Get A Lot More Sleep Than I Do?

Couples with children are very often up during the night dealing with their children’s issues.  But the opposite is also untrue.  Couples generally do not decide to not have children because they want to sleep more at night.  Comments can sound like the couple is acting in a shallow or selfish manner.

We Always Wanted To Have A Family

This expression can be misinterpreted.  Childless couples, when they hear this expression, may believe you’re saying a couple who don’t have children are not a family.  There are many types of families.  Significant others, parents, brothers and sisters, cousins, all constitute family members.

New York Divorce Lawyers

If you are married and things don’t work out, you may need to get divorced.  In those situations the New York divorce lawyers at the Law Offices of Schlissel DeCorpo can help you out.  The divorce lawyers at the Law Offices of Schlissel DeCorpo have more than 100 years of combined legal experience in dealing with matrimonial and family law cases.  Among the various of matters handled by the Law Offices of Schlissel DeCorpo are divorce grounds, family lawchild custodychanging visitationchild abuse and child neglectdrafting separation agreementsprenuptial and post nuptial agreements.  We also have litigated cases involving mothers’ rights and fathers’ rightsThe firm has extensive experience in dealing with high net worth divorce issues. Call for a free consultation.

‘Genius’ Not Taken Into Account in Equitable Distribution

divorce-150x150Judge Dregger, sitting in Manhattan Supreme Court, denied a very successful private equity firm executive from presenting evidence in a divorce case that he had “unique personality traits” prior to the marriage that allowed him to accumulate 450 million dollars in business assets during the thirty year term of his marriage. Justice Dregger, in her decision, stated that “in purporting to prove that the success of the business is solely attributable to his innate genius, the expert opinion evidence offered by the husband provides no assistance to the finder of fact in fashioning an equitable distribution of the estate based on the contributions of each party to the marital partnership.” Mr. and Mrs. Silverman were married for more than thirty years prior to a divorce lawsuit being brought. They had married in January of 1978.

Innate Talents

Mr. Silverman claimed that he had unique innate talents that allowed him to be successful in this business. Mr. Silverman argued that his talents in business should be considered in determining equitable distribution. Justice Dregger stated that intangible assets may be considered as marital property, referring to the enhanced earning capacity of an investment banker, someone with celebrity status or someone involved in a political career. However, she stated the question is “to what degree the spouse not possessed of the intangible asset was entitled to a distributive aware arising from the enhanced earning capacity of the career developed during the marriage and not the degree of fame, skill or political acumen possessed at the time of the marriage.”

Henry Silverman is out of luck. The 450 million dollars he amassed is subject to equitable distribution with his wife. I’m sure he’ll end up with enough money to prevent himself from starving.

New York and Long Island Divorce Lawyer

The Law Offices of Schlissel DeCorpo have been handling divorces in the Metropolitan New York area for over thirty-three years. We litigate all aspects of divorce related proceedings in the Supreme Court and Family Court. These proceedings involve divorce grounds, no fault divorce, child custody, mothers’ rights, fathers’ rights, child support, downward modification of child support, spousal maintenance (alimony) and domestic violence issues. In addition, we negotiate separation agreements, prenuptial agreementsand post-nuptial agreements for our clients. We litigate equitable distribution issues involving doctor, dentist and lawyer licenses. Call us for a free consultation.

Getting Divorced During an Economic Downturn

divorce-150x1502The financial crisis in the United States is causing tension within families. Financial problems can be the cause of a divorce. In most marriages the family home is the largest asset. The decline in home values over the past three or four years has resulted in many homes being worth less than the mortgages on them.

Postponing Divorce

Recent studies have shown that nearly a third of all couples who considered divorce have postponed their divorce plans due to financial problems.

Divorce and Real Estate Issues

What do you do with the house in the divorce? Who stays in the house? Who is responsible for paying the bills on the house? These are significant issues that must be dealt with.

Living Together Until Financial Problems Can Be Dealt With

One choice for couples who don’t get along is to continue living together, but not as man and wife. These couples live together with the hope that their financial situation will improve and they will be able to sell their home and get their equity out of it. However, there is no sign the real estate market is improving throughout the majority of the United States. Furthermore, there is always a question as to whether living with someone you don’t get along with creates a negative environment for the children or will result in domestic violence.

Are the Mortgage Payments Behind?

If the mortgage payments are behind, the unhappy couple will eventually be receiving a foreclosure notice. Is it better to sell the house now or wait until it’s sold in foreclosure?

Modern Divorce

Divorce can be a contentious issue or it can be negotiated. The best solution for couples that don’t get along is for them to sit down with attorneys and negotiate in a mature, amicable manner, in either a divorce settlement or separation agreement. This will help avoid the acrimony and high cost of litigation.

New York and Long Island Divorce Lawyer

The Law Offices of Schlissel DeCorpo have been handling divorces in the Metropolitan New York area for over 33 years. We litigate all aspects of divorce related proceedings in the Supreme Court and Family Court. These proceedings involve divorce grounds, no fault divorce, child custody, mothers’ rights, fathers’ rights, child support, downward modification of child support, spousal maintenance (alimony)and domestic violence issues. In addition, we negotiate separation agreements, prenuptial agreementsand post-nuptial agreements for our clients. We litigate equitable distribution issues involving doctor, dentist and lawyer licenses. Call us for a free consultation.

Former President Bush’s Daughter Endorses Gay Marriage

bush-150x100Barbara Bush, age 29, one of George Bush’s twin daughters, has taped a video endorsing gay marriage. The video calls for the State of New York to legalize gay marriage. In her video, she says this a matter of conscience and equality.

Her father, former President George Bush, does not agree with her on this topic. Barbara Bush is not the first child of a prominent Republican to support same sex marriage.

Meghan McCain Endorses Same Sex Marriage

Meghan McCain, the daughter of John McCain, who received the Republic nomination for the presidency in 2008, has been a outspoken supporter of same sex marriages. Her father, John McCain, like George Bush, opposes same sex marriage.

Mary Cheney Supports Same Sex Marriages

Mary Cheney is the daughter of Dick Cheney. Dick Cheney was the Vice President serving under George Bush. Mary Cheney is a lesbian. She is an outspoken supporter of gay rights and gay marriage. As with George Bush and John McCain, Mary’s father, Dick Cheney opposes same sex marriage.

New York Bars Law Concerning Same Sex Marriages

Members of the same sex can now marry in the State of New York. Governor Andrew Cuomo helped get this bill through the New York State Legislature. Hooray for Andrew Cuomo!

New York and Long Island Divorce Lawyer

The Law Offices of Schlissel DeCorpo have been handling divorces in the Metropolitan New York area for over 33 years. We litigate all aspects of divorce related proceedings in the Supreme Court and Family Court. These proceedings involve divorce groundsno fault divorcechild custodymothers’ rights,fathers’ rightschild supportdownward modification of child supportspousal maintenance (alimony)and domestic violence issues. In addition, we negotiate separation agreementsprenuptial agreementsand post-nuptial agreements for our clients. We litigate equitable distribution issues involving doctor, dentist and lawyer licenses. Call us for a free consultation.

Marital Infidelity

marital-150x144Arnold Schwarzenegger, it was recently disclosed, had a child out of wedlock with one of his household employees. Arnold was able to keep it a secret from his wife, Maria Shriver, for more than a decade. Do career choices cause marital infidelity?

Arnold Schwarzenegger started his career as a body builder. He then became a movie star. He recently spent seven years as the governor of the State of California. It is my understanding that he is again looking at resuming his motion picture career.

Fame and Infidelity

If you are famous or rich, the financial aspects of infidelity are a lot easier to deal with. We continually read about movie stars who are sleeping around. These stories sell magazines and newspapers. They’re also excellent fodder for the gossip-type television shows that report these matters under the excuse that they are newsworthy events.

Morals

I personally don’t believe that certain career choices make it more difficult to maintain fidelity in a marital relationship. Individuals either have a basic moral structure or they don’t. Marital infidelity isn’t an issue solely for movie stars or the rich. The divorce rate in the State of New York is almost 50%. A large portion of these divorces are caused by marital infidelity. Although career changes and financial issues can cause stress, the stress itself is not what causes marital infidelity. Marital infidelity is caused by a lack of control. Careers that cause spouses to end up as trains passing in the night may be a factor in spouses seeking fulfillment outside of their marriage.

Although career changes can cause stress in a marriage, two individuals who love each other can overcome these issues. Sometimes career changes involve one party to a marriage becoming extremely successful. The successful person may have new opportunities for social climbing and his or her spouse may not be part of this new equation.

Although I am a divorce attorney, I’m a bit old fashioned about marriage and fidelity. Individuals should take their marital vows seriously and abide by them!

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New York and Long Island Divorce Lawyer

The Law Offices of Schlissel DeCorpo have been handling divorces in the Metropolitan New York area for over 33 years. We litigate all aspects of divorce related proceedings in the Supreme Court and Family Court. These proceedings involve divorce grounds, no fault divorce, child custody, mothers’ rights, fathers’ rights, child support, downward modification of child support, spousal maintenance (alimony) and domestic violence issues. In addition, we negotiate separation agreements, prenuptial agreements and post-nuptial agreements for our clients. We litigate equitable distribution issues involving doctor, dentist and lawyer licenses. Call us for a free consultation.

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