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What Should a Parenting Plan Include

Parenting Plan

I’ve heard that good marriages are made in heaven and bad marriages are made on earth. Whether a marriage or a relationship is good or bad children should not be made to suffer when the relationship ends.

Children benefit from having relationships with both parents. However, there can be bumps in the road in working out details related to the parenting time each parent has with the children. The best way to deal with these issues is to have a detailed, well written reasonable parenting plan. The following are some issues that should be dealt with in a well written parenting plan:

Schedules

Parenting plans should include schedules for each parent. These schedules should deal with weekends and vacation periods including summer vacation, winter recess, Easter, Christmas vacation and Spring break. In addition, there should be a division of all school holidays. Both parents should have access to the children on their birthdays. The father should have the children on Father’s Day and the mother should have the children on Mother’s Day. The parenting plan should deal with who picks up the children and who drops the children off. If the parties are sharing their car seat, the parenting plan should deal with the car seat issue. If the parents do not get along and can’t pick the children up at their respective places of residence, a neutral location can be worked out as to where the children will be picked up and dropped off.

Parent/Child Communications

The parenting plan should deal with each parent’s ability to communicate with the children when the children are with the other parent. They should take into consideration the usage of cell phones, texting and e-mails.

At School, Athletic and Religious Functions

The parenting plan should deal with the religion of the children. It should designate with who will be responsible for religious education and the celebration of various religious functions involving the children. Children like to see their parents at their athletic events. Each parent should assist the other parent in being aware of significant functions such as school plays, school athletic functions and other school activities the children are involved in. It makes children happy to see their parents in the audience. The parents should also keep each other advised with regard to the children’s report cards, parent/teacher conferences and open school week issues. If the school maintains a website regarding the children’s activities both parents should be aware of this.

Decision Making

There are major decisions that affect children’s lives. These decisions deal with educational issues, social issues and health care issues. A specific framework in the parenting plan should be set up to deal with all of the potential problems with regard to these issues.

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Conclusion

Whether good marriages are made in heaven and bad marriages are made on earth, when relationships break up the best way to avoid future problems is to have a parenting plan which deals with all the aforementioned issues involving the children.

Elliot S. Schlissel is an attorney with 40 years of experience in dealing with divorce and family law issues. He has offices in Nassau, Suffolk and Queens Counties, He can be reached at 800-344-6431 or e-mailed at Elliot@sdnylaw.com.

Parenting Plans and Co-Parenting

Parenting Plans & Co-ParentingParenting plans are often set up during the course of settlement agreements to deal with decision making, visitation and custody issues for children of the marriage. Parenting plans can help provide stability, minimize potential conflicts between the parents and create a consistent framework for parents to develop loving relationships with their children. Couples who utilize parenting plans and cooperate with each other regarding the terms of the parenting plan can usually avoid problems with the other parent when dealing with issues involving their children.

Co-Parenting

Co-parenting involves parents working together after their relationship has ended regarding issues involving their children. There are many keys to co-parenting. The parents should promote the children’s best interests and maintain consistency in their policy decisions. They should consult with each other regarding significant child rearing issues and be flexible with each other if their decisions don’t work out well.

Parenting Time

Elliot SchlisselParents should work out reasonable parenting time schedules and be flexible in modifying and changing these schedules to meet with the parents and their children’s needs. It is especially important that the parents cooperate with each other and support their children’s relationship with the other parent. The key to co-parenting is to maintain the children’s best interests as the priority and put the children’s needs above the parents’ needs.

The law office of Schlissel DeCorpo LLP for more than 4 decades has been representing parents in divorces, custody disputes, visitation and relocation proceedings. Our offices in Queens, Nassau and Suffolk counties offer free consultations to prospective clients. We can be reached at 800-344-6431 or e-mail Elliot Schlissel, Esq. at Elliot@sdnylaw.com.

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Parenting Plans: What Are They?

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Traditionally in divorce cases one parent would obtain custody and the other parent would have visitation with regard to the children. Today, visitation is no longer the modern term referred to when discussing time a parent sends with his or her child. The modern term is called parenting time. In a divorce, each parent gets to have parenting time with their children. In divorce cases where both parents seek to spend quality time with their children, and play a significant role in the lives of their children, the best way to accomplish this goal is to the parents to amicably enter into a parenting plan.

Parents are Not a Visiting Relative

The concept of visitation is an old concept. Parenting involves much more than seeing your children. It involves helping raise the children, teaching them morals, social values, promoting their education and helping them grow into reasonable healthy well adjusted adults. Children could benefit from the wonderful experience of having two loving parents help raise them. The children should benefit from this experience even though their parents have gotten divorced. It should be pointed out that parents divorce each other, they don’t divorce their children!

In situations where one parent seeks to prevent the other parent from maintaining their relationship with the children or alienates the children from the other parent, he or she is damaging the children. This is inappropriate and only hurts the children. The children should be entitled to a life experience which involves learning and developing a relationship with both of their parents.

Working Out Parenting Plans

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Parents in divorces should do everything in their power to cooperate with each other to help the children have healthy loving relationships with both parents. The best way to accomplish this is to have each parent work with their respective attorneys to work out a parenting plan that fits into the children’s schedules and maximizes the time each parent can have with the children.

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